In this article, we’re talking about the betaization of men at the hands of their women.

This is probably one of the most important topics on this website and will probably solve many issues men have when they some kind of a relationship with a woman.

Have you ever noticed that women dump guys according to a specific pattern that plays out similar every time?

No? We have. This article will uncover one of the secrets regarding the mating behavior of women, why they do it, how they do it and what you can do to never end up at the end of the cycle:

Her dumping you because she succeeded in changing you into a weak shell of a man.

This is Part one of the Article. You can find part two Here.

A quick introduction to the betaization process

The betaization process is a subconscious process woman put men through in order to make their mates even more committed to the relationship and ultimately work as a plow horse for them. It was first mentioned by Joseph W. South and David Franco.

In addition to some assertions they made in their book, I have added some more practical advice from our side. You can never have enough advice when dealing with female manipulation, can you?

Oh, and don’t ask women about this, they don’t know they are doing it. They also don’t know they are testing you. Just don’t talk with women about it, they will deny everything. Just shut up.

We understand that by saying something like this in today’s society full of feminist ideology, idiots and other leftists, we will be called misogynistic. However, you’ll surely excuse us for not giving a shit.

The gynocentric social order will tell you that the following chapters are all bullshit… However, it stands to reason that it is true when you ask men all over the world and have some kind of understanding about evolutionary psychology.

The betaization process; Pure evolutionary psychology

First of all, you need to understand, that in order for the human species to survive, we have to reproduce. Although this is not in our conscious mind, everything we do serves this select purpose.

Men acquire resources and status to get access to the most beautiful women, while women try to make themselves look as beautiful as possible in order to elicit a strong sexual attraction in the highest status man they can hold on to “long-term”.

But have you ever asked yourself the question, how long exactly this “long-term” is?

The betaization process ensures our survival

Well, as usual, the answer depends. This is the bad news. However, the good news is that women unconsciously follow a specific process to make a man invest in them more throughout the relationship.

A woman’s goal is to mate with the best man she can do and then make him emotionally commit to her for reasons of securing his provisioning to rear the infant child. While this serves the purpose of quality offspring, a woman hasn’t yet solved the issue of quantity. This is where the betaization process comes in.

In order to reproduce more than once in her lifetime, a woman must bring herself to the point where another high-status man can walk into her life and replace the previous one.

She is only able to see one man at a time as the best she can do. Therefore, the question arises, how she brings herself to the point at which she is able to see another man as her best, despite already being with one at the moment.

A woman’s reasoning behind betaization and a warning…

What women don’t realize is that they subconciously mold the man they’re currently with into a creature they can’t be sexually attracted to anymore. If a woman succeeds in molding a man like this, she is now despising him and will leave the relationship.

In terms of evolutionary psychology this makes sense because that way, a woman is able to mate with and bear children from multiple strong males throughout a lifetime. The process heightens the stakes for the survival of the human species and will be played out as many times as possible.

Guys, please don’t ever mention something like this when you’re at a family gathering or in a social setting. If you talk about betaization and quote our blog at the dinner table, you’re not getting invited back.

Keep it in the back of your mind. We’re getting sick of including this warning into every post, but some of y’all need to be told.

Whatever, moving on.

The betaization process

Now we get to the crux of the matter. You can generally split the whole process of finding a high value man, binding him emotionally, making him weak and then discarding him into 5 phases:

1. Testing the man
2. Seeking communication
3. Put him to work
4. Evolutionary selfishness

Depending on the nature and awareness of her mate and her self-esteem, this manipulation process can play out in different ways. Completing it may take weeks, months, years, decades or… a lifetime.

We’ll now go through each of these phases one-by-one and tell you what you must look out for. After explaining all the phases, we’ll then go ahead and teach you how you can revert them if you’re already too far along.

Phase 1: Testing the man

We have a long-ass separate article specifically on this topic already HERE, but we’ll nevertheless go ahead and explain the concept of testing to you once again.

There are different theories on what women test men for.

For example:

• Rollo Tomassi, author of The Rational Male, says women seek confidence, competence, proof of his sexual options, and proof he can provide security.
• Chase Amante, author of How to Make Girls Chase and a recommended resource of ours says that women test men as part of the sexual arms race. Men try to position themselves as better than they actually are and women need to make sure they’re not going to mate with weak men who are posturing as alpha.
• W. Anton, author of The Manual, says that women seek first and foremost strength
• Leil Lowndes author of Undercover Sex Signal says women seek men who are generally “better” than they are -the major element behind female hypergamy-.
• According to David Buss, an expert in evolutionary psychology, women act according to their “innate skepticism bias”. This phenomenon describes that women can feel some type of way about a man, but don’t trust their own judgement and have to verify their feelings by testing the man. They always have to make sure, over and over again, that you still have congruency and that your confident presence is congruent with your inner frame.

And well…

They are all right.

It’s not as simple as to generalize female behavior when looking for a mate and therefore testing him. What they look for heavily depends on who she is, who she is looking for and at which point of the interaction you’re in.

When first meeting you, she wants to make sure you’re not a weird dude. Later on, she tests if you’re truly the high value man you portray yourself as. Rather sooner than later she wants to make sure which category to put you in – Lover or provider.

A woman who is attracted to you will never stop testing you. A woman must make sure that you’re still the high value male she first invested in and if her feelings of attraction are still real. In other words, for a psychologically healthy woman, sexual attraction and survival must harmonize with each other.

As soon as she’s concluded that you’re the man for her, phase 2 will arise.

Phase 2: Seeking communication

Please open up to me…

The second stage of the betaization process starts to appear, as soon as a woman concludes that you’re the strong male she desires.

In this stage, she wants to make sure that her man serves her exclusively. While many men pass the tests in the first stage, they fail to see the meaning of the second stage. It is very difficult for the average man to detect it, as it is subconsciously masked as a simple request to “communicate” with the woman.

While it is a feature of the feminine psyche to appreciate communication above everything else, men fail to understand what the biological reason for this phase is. From an evolutionary point of view, the female of the human species tries to “dazzle” the man in order to hopefully make him serve her and her purposes.

This stage is absolutely imperative to ensure the success of couple-relationships. Couple therapy fails so frequently because therapists may in fact recognize the female need for communication but not It’s evolutionary reasons. As soon as a woman starts to feel that her partner fails or doesn’t want to communicate properly, the blame is automatically put on the man’s shoulders.

However, after testing the male in the first phase to ensure his status as a strong man, she specifically requests a deeper connection with a man in order to emotionally bond him to her. A strong man will recognize that an attempt is made to weaken him, and he will, unaware of this process, lash out in predictable manners. The man might get angry at his woman or withdraw from her. In addition to this, the woman will fabricate arguments about him not communicating enough that, according to the man, have no rational reason whatsoever.

Phase 3: Putting him to work

“Honey please take out the trash and please wash the dishes and please hurry!”

As soon as the man opens up to a woman in the fashion we described earlier, she effectively owns the frame of the relationship. Starting with this phase of the betaization process, the destruction of attraction can begin.

The woman will start tasking, which will be described in the section on how this can show up in the relationship. The goal in this phase: Taking over aspects of the man’s life which directly affect his material interests.

For example, purchase decisions can now be made “jointly”, which with rational analysis are just the result of the woman’s manipulation attempts. Most men also want to maintain some semblance of peace in their household, so out the window goes the attraction.

Phase 4: Evolutionary selfishness

“I’m never satisfied, no matter what you do or how hard you try”

This stage begins as soon as the woman has succeeded in making her formerly strong man open up to her emotionally.

In this stage of the betaization process, she will try to get as much out of the man as possible. The only time communication happens is for the purpose of deriving something useful for her and her children. In addition to this, she will disregard any psychological and material interests the man might have.

Thus, the man will be put under the power of a strong and constant psychological double bind along the lines of:

“If you don’t open up to me, I am not satisfied. You don’t communicate with me.”

At the same time as:

“As soon as you open up, I will use the information you provide in a totally selfish way for my own needs”.

Either way, the end result for the man is usually a mixture of shame, guilt or confusion and, when it becomes too much, anger. Assuming the man takes it seriously (most men will), this phase results in him being caught in an ongoing psychological mechanism, which will make him weaker and weaker. At the same time, the sexual attraction of his woman will evaporate as he becomes a shell of the strong man he once was.

Phase 5: Self-determination

“I am a full grown, independent woman now. You’re abusing me and I feel trapped in this relationship. Let me therefore go on a girls’ night out and (hopefully) land myself a new man!”

We’re of course aware that the woman in this example isn’t a little girl. Nevertheless, in the self-determination stage, the man will be placed under another double bind even stronger than the one preceding.

As soon as he seeks out the emotional communication she has asked for all along, the woman will start to express sentiments such as feeling oppressed, or that her man has become boring or that he’s too nice or that he doesn’t understand her and so on.

The man of course is confused as to why his woman feels such a way, despite him not doing anything logical to deserve it. The result, once again, is guilt and shame.

Many men at this point revert to not giving a shit at all what she says anymore. This will make the woman respond with assertions such as “he’s not a loving husband / boyfriend” or “I cannot be together with him because he doesn’t understand me” or “I don’t feel anything for him anymore” or “sex without communication is a turn-off”. This induces even more negative feelings in the man.

In the self-determination stage, the female expresses her resentment and dissatisfaction with the relationship, which is the result of the woman molding the man to be psychologically weaker over time.

If a man is able to pass through these stages without a corresponding decrease of his woman’s attraction towards him, he’s an outstandingly strong man. This man will avoid getting psychologically weakened by his woman and are more the exception than the norm.

Evolutionary reasons for stage 5

For survival reasons, it’s much better if nature first creates attraction between a man and a woman and have it evaporated soon after.

This helps to ensure a safe upbringing of the offspring as well as more sexual interactions with other sexual partners, which results in more offspring and a wider spreading of genetic materials.

While in certain animal species, the woman kills the man after copulation, the “killing” in the human species happens more psychologically. The killing of human males by their female partners is rather symbolic in our case.

However, we also need to mention the men who take the process so seriously that they start to destroy their health through the abuse of alcohol and drugs, or start to abuse their partners or even murder their partners or commit suicide.

We could therefore say that permanently monogamous relationships are not necessarily nature. The whole thing is much more pragmatic. Permanently monogamous relationships are a social construct, the evolutionary purpose of which lasts for as long as nature considers it useful…

What happens as soon as the betaization process in completed?

In traditional, male dominated societies, the woman is not able to leave the relationship when her attraction diminishes due to completing the process described in the last few chapters. This has the result of the woman falling into clinical depression or committing acts of infidelity.

Clinical depression occurs under the pretense, that a woman is no longer attracted to the man she’s with, but is hindered from finding another sexual partner through social restraints.

The woman in this case has to face a practically impossible conflict between her emotions, which demand sexual satisfaction, and her societally restrained behavior, which prohibits sexual satisfaction.

In modern, politically correct societies, a common end result of this manipulation process is the woman ending the relationship or acting in such a way, that her current man has no other choice than to end the relationship. Cheating-behaviors are very likely to happen in either scenario.

The blame, as women have to feel like “good” chimpanzees, is often put on the man’s shoulders. She will rationalize her exit out of the relationship in such a way, that the man is to take full blame for what occurred during the subconscious process she goes through.

Why does counseling not account for this issue?

Counseling and family therapy fails to help couples, because they start from the shaky assumption that exclusive committed relationships are always “healthy” and the norm, while having sex with different partners is “sick”.

They also fail miserably in detecting the above mentioned process, in which the female bewilders her male mates’ mind with schizophrenic double messages, which would be considered to fit the clinical definition of “Borderline Personality disorder” by most experienced clinicians on the planet.

What happens in therapy and psychological counseling in the western world is that the male is made out to be the villain in a process that has been actively maintained by the female.

While some professionals may understand this process better than most, they don’t have the courage to speak out about it, as this would result in them being cancelled.

On a meta level, what is happening with this social process is simply another evolutionary mechanism, one which allows for more pregnancies and for the upbringing of children in the most viable way possible.

There is certainly a strong cultural influence at work here and it behooves men to understand these forces and to work hard to make themselves strong men who can withstand female manipulation. Above all, a man with children must understand, that he’s equally important and a vital link in the upbringing of psychologically well children.

There is strong evidence through countless studies that show clearly how more capable children from two-parent households are in both social and psychological aspects.

How to solve this problem – Reverse the Betaization

Although the onset, intensity and order of occurrence of each of those stages in the betaization process can differ from woman to woman, it has showed up in every relationship we are familiar with.

Not just in our own relationships but also those of close friends, family members and countless case studies we reviewed. To be frank, this process is exactly how women turn short-term relationships into long-term relationships.

We still think that female manipulation is not that hard to counter, once a man understands the process. Let’s revisit each stage and make some key points.

Before that, I want to give you a short elevator pitch on what the grand scheme of the solution is: Revert the process.

Testing

Testing the man never ends. Women test unconciously. Woman use testing as a tool to determine a man’s congruency, his ability to be genuine. As soon as the man is fully congruent internally and externally (and has some semblance of frame control), he just swats those tests away without realizing he’s being tested.

It’s important to remember that testing is closely binded to the mechanisms that control sexual attraction and therefore never ends. It’s absolutely essential to maintain sexual attraction in a relationship.

Seeking communication

Seeking communication is really a woman pointing out that she’s suffering from emotional ambiguity. See, women don’t really understand what they feel and talk to process their emotions. It’s up to you to interpret what she really means with what she says. For some this might be frustrating but that’s just how women are wired.

Men view a womans pronouncement of “I don’t feel we are communicating” as a logical statement addressing the exchanging of facts or in this case, the lack of this activity between two people.

However, in this case it is an emotional statement indicating her confusion and emotional disconnection from the relationship. When the woman puts the blame on the man, this is normal for two reasons:

1. Women habitually blame their own emotional distress on external factors, in order to prevent taking responsibility. When a man happens to be the most convenient “blame receptacle”, then he gets blamed.
2. She’s making a request for masculine leadership. She wants her man to step up and deal with her out-of-control emotional state with masculine strength and without fear

For her, it’s all about the “feelings”

The only important word in any such statement is “feel”. It’s so important that in many cases it doesn’t matter what she feels, as long as it’s any emotion stronger than indifference. Anything with passion will do, as long as it’s followed up with the appropriate level of physical commitment And always make sure that intense displays of passion are followed by intense displays of affection. Frankly, fuck her good.

In addition to this, don’t communicate each and every emotion to your woman as this is not what she wants. Some men may interpret the above-mentioned statement as a request for sharing emotional baggage with the women in their lives. However, we strongly suggest you don’t.

If you need to complain about your job, cry or think you need to perform any other action that makes your woman see you as weak, do it in the company of your friends. It does you no good to communicate to your woman with the end result that she sees you as weak.

Put him to work

Just say no. Think about what you can do and what you can’t. Have some boundaries for Christ sake!

Look, if your woman has become accustomed to you just doing everything she asks, she will ask you to do even the most mundane tasks just because she’s too lazy to do it herself.

Many of these can be categorized as compliance tests. If you read our E-Book about shit tests, you know that passing them will just require a “no”.

Another solution: tease her for being bossy.

Yet another solution is to negotiate in the spirit of “tit for tat”. While this seems quite unromantic, we believe that as soon as a man is in this situation, romance is gone anyway. There is nothing to lose, and your self-respect to regain.

Example: She wants you to pick up the kids from school. In turn you could kindly request that a special, home-cooked meal waits for you as soon as you get back home.

In addition to this, be proactive in your leadership. Women want to feel useful and like they are contributing to something meaningful. Spend some time to give your female counterpart meaningful work , ensuring that you are the one who determines the direction of the family.

You will find that agreeing on specific tasks will be much easier. When you appreciate a good woman for her specific contribution, she will be delighted in her relationship and feel she made an excellent selection in a man.

Special Tip – Don’t engage in choreplay

Another point I have to mention. There is the whole choreplay discussion and the famous “maybe if you would help me more around the house, I would feel more comfortable, and we’d have sex more often”. See, as soon as you have reached a point at which she demands you to do more and more, you have fallen for manipulation attempts previously.

The sentence in this paragraph is just another manifestation of putting him to work, paired with emotional manipulation, a power-play for control and weaponizing her sexuality in order to get the most out of the strong man she landed.

You do things on your own timeline and to your own standard. Everyone is different and everyone has different standards. Oftentimes, women will have a specific ritual for cleaning stuff that makes no sense whatsoever.

Don’t buy into her frame!

Things will probably be clean and sanitary without doing all that, but she just feels as though it’s the right way to execute tasks.

If you buy into that frame, you have essentially relinquished leadership and are now trying to endlessly supplicate her frame of “doing it my way and at the time I want it is the better way”.

If your woman asks you to take out the trash while she’s doing something in the kitchen and you are doing something else, kindly inform her that she can do it herself, especially if she’s rather snide in her way of communicating.

Her appeals to fairness and morals are just another way to emotionally manipulate you into doing stuff. This will probably spark some conflict but hey, we must maintain attraction here. It is what it is. In addition to this, don’t let her direct you when you’re doing something.

If she thinks she can do it better, she can do it herself. It’s perfectly reasonable to hand her the screwdriver with a smile if she wants to tell you how to fix the cupboard “correctly”. If she refuses, she better be quiet about how you complete your work.

Do things on your timeline and to your own standard, simple as that.

If she wants done anything more, at her timeline or to her standard…. Well, her legs aren’t broken, are they?

Evolutionary selfishness

It’s completely understandable that a woman’s primary concern is always her own well-being and that of her kids. It’s difficult if not impossible for a woman to feel altruistic or merciful towards a grown man. Your role to her is to be her protector or get out of the way.

However, as a strong protector you have great value in the eyes of a healthy woman. The key here is to assert this value and put a price tag on your leadership of her and the family. This means simply that you lead the relationship and continually give her tasks within the context of the relationship.

Putting a price on your leadership also means having boundaries and moral standards. You have to subcommunicate to your woman from the beginning and throughout the relationship that you, as a man, expect certain behaviors, duty to the relationship and a certain treatment from your woman if she wants to retain you as a protector and leader. In other words – my way or the highway.

If a woman acts like shit you enforce your boundaries and, depending on the boundary crossed, remove either your

• Affection
• Attention/presence
• Your commitment

If this means that you have to blow up your relationship to enforce your standards, so be it. It’s better to live without a screeching harpy in your house, anyway.

Of course, there are these women who are never able to submit to the leadership of a man, no matter how strong you are. Screen these women out at the beginning through a good screening process or get rid of them as soon as you find out.

Self-determination

If you reach this stage, the woman has decided to end the relationship and will send signals to inform you of this fact through sub-communication.

She is effectively telling you, that she no longer views you two as a unit and that you’re no longer the strong man she was attracted to initially. As difficult as it may seem, at this stage you most likely have to prepare to let her go.

Your best chance to salvage the relationship may be to start at the beginning. Let her know that you’re equally prepared to leave the relationship if you don’t get the respect and admiration you desire.

Since ultimatums are the biggest display of powerlessness, you have to be diligent about boundary enforcement. If she suddenly wants to go on a girl’s night out to land herself a new man, it might be enough to tell her “I don’t date girls who go to the club”. Should she decide to not respect your wishes, you have to enforce your boundary without second-guessing.

If that means that you blow up the relationship, so be it. You never want to find yourself in a position where you are chasing or begging a woman. Not only is this a pathetic position for a man to find himself in, but the last bits of attraction from your woman will evaporate completely by such actions.

Let’s be real here; A man can survive practically everything, including the end of a cherished relationship. We advise you to consider this stage as the ultimate shittest of how much of a man you really are. Dealing with the test in the wrong way will mean the end of the relationship with this particular woman.

Conclusion on the betaization process

Well, that’s it! You now know how to counter the betaization process and what to do in each of these stages.

A word of advice at the end of this article:

Don’t be too upset at women for doing what they do. Women manipulate, this is as clear as the sun rising every morning. As the physically weaker sex, they have to do this in order to get power.

Don’t worry, though. We’ll try our best to provide you with more practical advice on how to counter female manipulation.

Oh, and please don’t become one of these bitte incels just because you know some stuff about female nature now. Accept it, overcome it and move on.

The sooner you implement your knowledge of female nature into your game, the better your results will be.

We’re here for you along the way.

Best,

Conquer and Elevate